Here's How to Love Yourself

Hello, you. :)

Ever wondered why it's so easy to love somebody else, better, than how you love yourself?

We are all human, and we often seek for the perfections. 

Perfection is never exist, but Acceptance does.

#1. Comparison Virus

Apple or Orange?

If Apple judges Orange,

Orange will judge Apple too.

Our comparison habit brings us to the level where we judge people and ourselves.

We all beautifully different one to another.

And let's bring our comparison habit to something more positive:

Negative: I'm talkative, but B is not, besides, B is too quiet. Why doesn't B talkative like me?

Positive: I'm talkative, but B is not, it's perfect. I have a friend who will listen to my stories patiently.

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Negative: C is so beautiful, I wonder how I could look like that? 

Positive: C is so beautiful. I can learn on how to be more beautiful from being with her, maybe it's the way she eats clean food, her personality, or the aura she has. 

If it's good for me, and she is succeed with those steps, therefore I can do it too. 

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#2. How do you see yourself?

So, how do you see yourself? Are you comparing yourself to another person?

If you think you're not good enough, list here, why: 

After you list down, now you know why you feel not good, 

And here's the steps for value yourself.

You need to : 

• relax, don't take everything seriously.
• proud of your strengths
• looking on your good personality and value.
• dreams you already achieved

In that way, you already are more than enough.

#3. See yourself as a team, a best friend, a soul mate. 

Take a minute to think that you were, are and will always be with yourself, so make it fun and be nice to yourself. 

You know every thought and action inside yourself.

So isn't it be good if you keep your attention before think or do something?

Be aware of everything will decrease regretful feeling.

Before say something, imagine if your sentence will be helpful or making them upset.

Before do something, imagine if you'll be thankful you're doing this or regret it. 

We should treat ourselves very nicely,

I, myself treat myself in a luxurious way,

My routine is waking up and meditate,

Joining e-courses that suits my hobbies.

And I try to be more aware in every situation.

To compliment, appreciate and care to people.

It's all started with one step to make it soon become a habit like this. 

And what routine is best for you?

What do you like to do?

What makes you feel inspired in the morning?

Is breakfast helping you to stay on the mood until lunch time?

Who's the person you want to talk the most?

Is postpone task will help you to achieve the desire result?

What is your goal in one year, and are your habit right now helping that dream closer to you? 

You know yourself more, you can choose what you love to do, 

And you can choose what actions benefit you.

Take control of your life and don't just 'let it flow'.

It's true that we need to adapt in order things happened not like our expectation.

We need to react smartly,

To whatever happen.

And stand up again.

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#4. Accept That We Are Not Perfect, but We Deserve The Best.

Just because you are not perfect, doesn't mean you don't deserve the best.

You are worthy of love and deep inside, you know that.

It's okay not to be perfect, 

We always can try to be better.

For you who try your best, even it will not reach the perfections, it's okay.

You deserve the best.

We accept the love we think we deserve. 

either it the people who support you, the special someone to spend the rest of your life with,

the places you want to go, the dreams you have in years.

I think you deserve it. :)

Hope you enjoy this blogpost, and if you wanna add more tips or questions, simply comment below :) 

Count your blessings.

:) 

Here, Alive & Be Inspiration.

It might be a little late to start an introduction of my blog, but as you can see in 'meet the author' page, you probably know this blog is the expression of my soul,

It speaks right about my heart, to know me, you should read every post in this blog.

Since you recognized this blog mostly about the positive mind,

So here is the reasons why I made all the writings.

I was a person with some negative thoughts and 

I don't really know the right way to express my care and love to people that are close to me.

Maybe that's why I must say good bye to some of them.

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Not everybody see the world like what I see.

The thing is, I understand the reason and the purpose I have is really good, it's for their own good,

But I just did it in a wrong way, turns out not everybody see the world like what I see. 

Everybody has a different concept of happiness.
And sometimes we just have to let them decide what's best for them.
Even when we think they deserve better.

Accepting the difference
between me and the people I love is really hard at the first time,
I don't wanna see them getting hurt.

But I learned that if I wanna love someone, I must accept all parts of them.
Maybe even in the way that I don't understand it.

So I began to learn personality of people

It was fun and I am able to tell which personality a person having, and how to treat them differently, that suits to their personality.

I trained my mind to keep positive with bunch of books and psychology talks I saw in YouTube,

It was more than a year I've been doing this.

Recommended Books!!! :) 

Personality Plus
5 Love Languages
The Secret

Share with me your favorite one!

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When feeling down...

And every time I feel down, I listen to a kindness talk.

 Sometimes I can write all of my feelings and feel relieved.

Sometimes I will find a wise friend I have, to remind me about positivity and the worthy of myself.

I will push myself again to listen to the positive audiobook I had just in my smartphone. I think it is a good idea to put it straight in phone, you should have too, it really helps in anytime, anywhere. :)

And the favorite part is I will find YouTuber and Blogger that inspire me, and will start to see what their posts look like. It makes me feel better and want to be the best again! 

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I knew I made mistakes back then, That's why some people go.

But the people that stay beside me til now I figured what my mistake was.

The people who are believing in me,

Even when I was not believing in myself.

They are the reasons I am becoming better and better.

You know, I feel very blessed and lucky to have them.

I wanna treat them really good, as their patience and love to me.

Cheers to everyone I love that still with me! #thankyou

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Here, Alive & Be Inspiration.

I am just a person like you,

I made mistakes, but it doesn't mean I can't be a winner.

As long as I want to stay positive,

As long as I am believing in myself,

As long as I learn to love,

As long as I do the kindness...

I am a winner.

My existence here is never, ever, a mistake.

Through every post here, 

It brings a pure inspiration, an enlightenment for you. 

It is a reminder on how special you are.

And you and me can always read it back when we need it. :)

That if I can do this, you can too.

I hope I can inspire you, I hope this blog can be your best friend.

If you want me to do a specific topic or just tell me what you think, 

You can always post comment or email me!

Thanks guys! It's incredible to have 60 followers now on BlogLovin'. 

I love every comment that I receive. You guys are just too lovely!

See you on next post :)

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It's been twelve days in January 2014. I hope you are enjoying it as much as I did! 

Since it is a fresh new beginning, I see everyone is still on their holiday mood and I love to see all the new year resolutions everywhere. The spirit of a new year is really a blessing! :) 

I love how my new year's eve is being with closest family and friends.

When a new year comes, people start to evaluate what they've done and what they didn't do in 2013. 

It is also a great timing to let go of what happened, saying goodbye to the past. 

I have a long list of resolutions this year, that I've made that special list with my best friend, Neechan. On my own lists I have 35 things to achieve this year! And it will be more and more. 

I am gonna share to you the top 5 in my resolution lists!

#1. Do the best in everything! 

To give the best version of me in everything that I do, it is important to do, to make it more meaningful and the result will be better. :) 

Let's Strengthen Your Confidence!

Hi guys, thank you for 150++ pageviews in a day! ^____^ 

Its really amazing and I wanna tell you how much it means to me, knowing that many of you are reading this blog.

You guys have motivated me to write better. Once again, Thank you! ^^ 

Today, I present a great post here to remind you to feel confident. 

There were times when we feel not confident, compare ourselves to another person.

It feels not really good, isn't it?

Do you know if you wanna look good, you must feel confident first? 

Confidence is like the fuel to start your engine.

According to my previous post, it is said "You don't need to wait to be perfect, to be confident." 

I used to feel not confident with myself, my appearance, my skills. 

With internet, now I can explore the famous people who are more expert in things I love.

It made me feel down,
 but it's not their fault,
my jealousy is the wrong way to react.

They deserved to be good, because they are working so hard and put more effort

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If I wanna be good too, I must put more effort. 

As simple as that.

And what's the use in being insecure about my own skills? 

I might not be the best person in the world in what I am doing now, but....

I know that I have took so much time to reach this. I know what I've been through. It has the pain, it has the joy. And I ever wished that I want to reach this level sooo badly, and now I already reached it.

I won't let another person's stories make me feel down. 

I will reach it also with my ways. I am proud of myself. 

This is my victory story. :)

I understand that everybody has different time and way to be good at something.

And the good news is, I still have the chance to learn and improve it everyday. 

So nothing to worry as long as I wanna do the best, right?

I might not be the best person at singing, designing, or writing in the world,
but I'll still do it anyway. :)

Because I appreciate myself and I have learned a lot in these things. 

I believe that I can do it and I have confidence. 

Here are steps to boost your confident :)

Think of the time that you feel really confident.

It is can be when you are doing the hobby that you are expert at. 

For example, drawing, photography, business, or talk about the topic that you already good at.

Or when you talk with someone who admires you. 

Anything, any situation that you felt strongly confident. 

Remember that confident feeling be with you 

in every situation.

So you can feel "I CAN OVERCOME THIS", "I CAN DO IT".

Stop comparing; Start focusing & loving yourself.

It is your life, you must be more focus on yourself than others.

You can spend your free time to improve your skills, to make people around you happy,

And do the things that you like to do. Go hang out in the place that you always want to be. 

Go travelling. Practice your skills. I believe you have your own way to love yourself. ;)

Believe and you are already halfway there.

The best thing you will ever felt is to believe... 

To ignore the fear...

Come on, the future hasn't be written yet, why do you have to be so afraid?

Nobody's perfect. Why so serious? Enjoy and live your life to the fullest. 

Show them what you can do, be brave. Proud of yourself. Write your victory story. ;)

Confidence is really a big thing to make you go through your life everyday, in order to feel good, it is all started with confident and proud about yourself. :) 

Believe me, when you become confident, you will feel extremely great everyday. 

And there is always an amazing result when you do things with confident. 

I tried it. You should, too. :))))) 

Good luck & Count your blessings.