Here's How to Love Yourself

Hello, you. :)

Ever wondered why it's so easy to love somebody else, better, than how you love yourself?

We are all human, and we often seek for the perfections. 

Perfection is never exist, but Acceptance does.

#1. Comparison Virus

Apple or Orange?

If Apple judges Orange,

Orange will judge Apple too.

Our comparison habit brings us to the level where we judge people and ourselves.

We all beautifully different one to another.

And let's bring our comparison habit to something more positive:

Negative: I'm talkative, but B is not, besides, B is too quiet. Why doesn't B talkative like me?

Positive: I'm talkative, but B is not, it's perfect. I have a friend who will listen to my stories patiently.

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Negative: C is so beautiful, I wonder how I could look like that? 

Positive: C is so beautiful. I can learn on how to be more beautiful from being with her, maybe it's the way she eats clean food, her personality, or the aura she has. 

If it's good for me, and she is succeed with those steps, therefore I can do it too. 

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#2. How do you see yourself?

So, how do you see yourself? Are you comparing yourself to another person?

If you think you're not good enough, list here, why: 

After you list down, now you know why you feel not good, 

And here's the steps for value yourself.

You need to : 

• relax, don't take everything seriously.
• proud of your strengths
• looking on your good personality and value.
• dreams you already achieved

In that way, you already are more than enough.

#3. See yourself as a team, a best friend, a soul mate. 

Take a minute to think that you were, are and will always be with yourself, so make it fun and be nice to yourself. 

You know every thought and action inside yourself.

So isn't it be good if you keep your attention before think or do something?

Be aware of everything will decrease regretful feeling.

Before say something, imagine if your sentence will be helpful or making them upset.

Before do something, imagine if you'll be thankful you're doing this or regret it. 

We should treat ourselves very nicely,

I, myself treat myself in a luxurious way,

My routine is waking up and meditate,

Joining e-courses that suits my hobbies.

And I try to be more aware in every situation.

To compliment, appreciate and care to people.

It's all started with one step to make it soon become a habit like this. 

And what routine is best for you?

What do you like to do?

What makes you feel inspired in the morning?

Is breakfast helping you to stay on the mood until lunch time?

Who's the person you want to talk the most?

Is postpone task will help you to achieve the desire result?

What is your goal in one year, and are your habit right now helping that dream closer to you? 

You know yourself more, you can choose what you love to do, 

And you can choose what actions benefit you.

Take control of your life and don't just 'let it flow'.

It's true that we need to adapt in order things happened not like our expectation.

We need to react smartly,

To whatever happen.

And stand up again.

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#4. Accept That We Are Not Perfect, but We Deserve The Best.

Just because you are not perfect, doesn't mean you don't deserve the best.

You are worthy of love and deep inside, you know that.

It's okay not to be perfect, 

We always can try to be better.

For you who try your best, even it will not reach the perfections, it's okay.

You deserve the best.

We accept the love we think we deserve. 

either it the people who support you, the special someone to spend the rest of your life with,

the places you want to go, the dreams you have in years.

I think you deserve it. :)

Hope you enjoy this blogpost, and if you wanna add more tips or questions, simply comment below :) 

Count your blessings.

:) 

"Someday" and "What If?"

For those who never do something, because you are waiting for 'Someday',

Let's stay tune on this blog.

Definition of 'Someday'

A perfect day, to do the perfect thing.

Which will, by the way, never happened.

I used to wait for that 'Someday' to come and I'll do what I want to do.

But that perfect timing never come.

And the time passed by with you still wondering,

'What if...?'

Definition of 'What If...?'

After passed a great opportunity to do something

you want to do, because you are afraid or not ready yet.

Which will lead you to a regretful feeling.

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Here, Alive & Be Inspiration.

It might be a little late to start an introduction of my blog, but as you can see in 'meet the author' page, you probably know this blog is the expression of my soul,

It speaks right about my heart, to know me, you should read every post in this blog.

Since you recognized this blog mostly about the positive mind,

So here is the reasons why I made all the writings.

I was a person with some negative thoughts and 

I don't really know the right way to express my care and love to people that are close to me.

Maybe that's why I must say good bye to some of them.

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Not everybody see the world like what I see.

The thing is, I understand the reason and the purpose I have is really good, it's for their own good,

But I just did it in a wrong way, turns out not everybody see the world like what I see. 

Everybody has a different concept of happiness.
And sometimes we just have to let them decide what's best for them.
Even when we think they deserve better.

Accepting the difference
between me and the people I love is really hard at the first time,
I don't wanna see them getting hurt.

But I learned that if I wanna love someone, I must accept all parts of them.
Maybe even in the way that I don't understand it.

So I began to learn personality of people

It was fun and I am able to tell which personality a person having, and how to treat them differently, that suits to their personality.

I trained my mind to keep positive with bunch of books and psychology talks I saw in YouTube,

It was more than a year I've been doing this.

Recommended Books!!! :) 

Personality Plus
5 Love Languages
The Secret

Share with me your favorite one!

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When feeling down...

And every time I feel down, I listen to a kindness talk.

 Sometimes I can write all of my feelings and feel relieved.

Sometimes I will find a wise friend I have, to remind me about positivity and the worthy of myself.

I will push myself again to listen to the positive audiobook I had just in my smartphone. I think it is a good idea to put it straight in phone, you should have too, it really helps in anytime, anywhere. :)

And the favorite part is I will find YouTuber and Blogger that inspire me, and will start to see what their posts look like. It makes me feel better and want to be the best again! 

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I knew I made mistakes back then, That's why some people go.

But the people that stay beside me til now I figured what my mistake was.

The people who are believing in me,

Even when I was not believing in myself.

They are the reasons I am becoming better and better.

You know, I feel very blessed and lucky to have them.

I wanna treat them really good, as their patience and love to me.

Cheers to everyone I love that still with me! #thankyou

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Here, Alive & Be Inspiration.

I am just a person like you,

I made mistakes, but it doesn't mean I can't be a winner.

As long as I want to stay positive,

As long as I am believing in myself,

As long as I learn to love,

As long as I do the kindness...

I am a winner.

My existence here is never, ever, a mistake.

Through every post here, 

It brings a pure inspiration, an enlightenment for you. 

It is a reminder on how special you are.

And you and me can always read it back when we need it. :)

That if I can do this, you can too.

I hope I can inspire you, I hope this blog can be your best friend.

If you want me to do a specific topic or just tell me what you think, 

You can always post comment or email me!

Thanks guys! It's incredible to have 60 followers now on BlogLovin'. 

I love every comment that I receive. You guys are just too lovely!

See you on next post :)

Letters to you who can't forgive.

Continue from my previous post about stop hating,

It is something I need to add on, it is about forgiveness.

Maybe you are starting a new beginning, 

But it will not completely a new beginning without a forgiveness.

So ask yourself,

what haven't you forgiven?

is it some people?

is it yourself?

take your time to think about it.

How long you've been thinking bad about this?

How often you think about the scenarios 

that might happened if you could just change things in the past?

How badly you blame yourself / other people about what happened?
Is it make you feel you wanna cry?

See, here.

In this moment,

I want you to think widely, and observing.

What were you feel when you did that thing?

What were you thinking?

And can you guess what they think when they did that mistake?

Try to see in many perceptions before you judge or blame.
And try to understand it, how will you react if you are in the other person's shoes.

Of course as a human, we can feel sad.

But nobody wants to suffer in that sad feeling for a long time, 

you need to get over this. you deserve all the happiness in front of you.

You could be loved no matter what.

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How to forgive ?

As I said above,

First, try to understand what is really happening, the point of views and the lesson you could take in that situation.

And then, after you understand, 

Give a forgiveness. 

To yourself, to them, to everything that made you sad.

Imagine if they are already say sorry to you, if they already did, 

maybe you need an apologize more, just imagine it.

I've tried it and it makes me can forgive it quickly.

The thing is,

Not about what their doing is unacceptable, is bad for you, is hurting.

It is who they were, and people can change, get over it.

if they are still the same, be thankful that you are not that kind of person.

What is more important is 

don't you realize that 

your peacefulness is been taken away by talking and thinking bad about them?

Feeling anger or guilty can make your days go really bad and it makes you somehow fear of the same thing could happen to you, so it will make you scare to try new things or meet new people.

Do you see that this is not a good impact for you? 

Forgive them, so you can be free.

Forgive them, because it is a wonderful gift for healing yourself and find your peace.

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Release that anger, sadness and disappointment,

because you can't take those negative feelings everyday with you.

Right?

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So now officially,

 I welcome you to the new beginning. :)

It feels really good after forgiving right? :D

Choose forgiveness, Choose Love. 

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See you on the next post!

The One?

We all have heard and believe about "The One".

That perfect someone who will come in the right time, have everything that we asked for, and just... perfect. 

We all want that one amazing person, physically attractive, smart, kind, loving, etc... long list of a perfect person could be. 

But how if, this "The One" only have some of your wish list? Will you still accept? 

Where do love begins?

For me, 

First, love begins when I accept myself.

According to my previous post, "Who are you to you?", 

How I treat myself is reflected to how I treat another people.

I forgive myself, love everything in me (personality + physical appearance), I believe in myself, I choose to be positive everyday, and I am my own best friend to support myself to be better 24/7.

Second thing, 

It is not about what I will receive

(since I can't control what I will receive);

I am focusing on what I can give.

I can give him acceptance, time, love, 

spirit, dreams, joy, ear to listen, shoulder to cry on, 

gifts, special moments, any kindness act that will make him happy.

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So if you meet your 'the one',

Always see the good things in him and fall in love everyday like the very first day you did, 

don't blame him for something he did, don't be against him,

but, cheer him up, believe and help him to love himself and enjoying life. 

We are not perfect, but we can always be better. And supportive partner make it possible. ;)

And I think, it's the perfect way to spend the rest of life together.

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First of all, love the packaging and colour. 

I am addicted to pink and all my stuffs in room are mostly pink. ;)

It has two gold straps, short and long, which is so elegant to wear in party.

I love this beautiful case so much! <3

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Hope you enjoy my post, thank you for all the feedbacks and request of topic. 

Thanks for all the likes in Instagram and Facebook.

Be happy for today is a gift you've received.

:) 

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It's been twelve days in January 2014. I hope you are enjoying it as much as I did! 

Since it is a fresh new beginning, I see everyone is still on their holiday mood and I love to see all the new year resolutions everywhere. The spirit of a new year is really a blessing! :) 

I love how my new year's eve is being with closest family and friends.

When a new year comes, people start to evaluate what they've done and what they didn't do in 2013. 

It is also a great timing to let go of what happened, saying goodbye to the past. 

I have a long list of resolutions this year, that I've made that special list with my best friend, Neechan. On my own lists I have 35 things to achieve this year! And it will be more and more. 

I am gonna share to you the top 5 in my resolution lists!

#1. Do the best in everything! 

To give the best version of me in everything that I do, it is important to do, to make it more meaningful and the result will be better. :) 

Let's Strengthen Your Confidence!

Hi guys, thank you for 150++ pageviews in a day! ^____^ 

Its really amazing and I wanna tell you how much it means to me, knowing that many of you are reading this blog.

You guys have motivated me to write better. Once again, Thank you! ^^ 

Today, I present a great post here to remind you to feel confident. 

There were times when we feel not confident, compare ourselves to another person.

It feels not really good, isn't it?

Do you know if you wanna look good, you must feel confident first? 

Confidence is like the fuel to start your engine.

According to my previous post, it is said "You don't need to wait to be perfect, to be confident." 

I used to feel not confident with myself, my appearance, my skills. 

With internet, now I can explore the famous people who are more expert in things I love.

It made me feel down,
 but it's not their fault,
my jealousy is the wrong way to react.

They deserved to be good, because they are working so hard and put more effort

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If I wanna be good too, I must put more effort. 

As simple as that.

And what's the use in being insecure about my own skills? 

I might not be the best person in the world in what I am doing now, but....

I know that I have took so much time to reach this. I know what I've been through. It has the pain, it has the joy. And I ever wished that I want to reach this level sooo badly, and now I already reached it.

I won't let another person's stories make me feel down. 

I will reach it also with my ways. I am proud of myself. 

This is my victory story. :)

I understand that everybody has different time and way to be good at something.

And the good news is, I still have the chance to learn and improve it everyday. 

So nothing to worry as long as I wanna do the best, right?

I might not be the best person at singing, designing, or writing in the world,
but I'll still do it anyway. :)

Because I appreciate myself and I have learned a lot in these things. 

I believe that I can do it and I have confidence. 

Here are steps to boost your confident :)

Think of the time that you feel really confident.

It is can be when you are doing the hobby that you are expert at. 

For example, drawing, photography, business, or talk about the topic that you already good at.

Or when you talk with someone who admires you. 

Anything, any situation that you felt strongly confident. 

Remember that confident feeling be with you 

in every situation.

So you can feel "I CAN OVERCOME THIS", "I CAN DO IT".

Stop comparing; Start focusing & loving yourself.

It is your life, you must be more focus on yourself than others.

You can spend your free time to improve your skills, to make people around you happy,

And do the things that you like to do. Go hang out in the place that you always want to be. 

Go travelling. Practice your skills. I believe you have your own way to love yourself. ;)

Believe and you are already halfway there.

The best thing you will ever felt is to believe... 

To ignore the fear...

Come on, the future hasn't be written yet, why do you have to be so afraid?

Nobody's perfect. Why so serious? Enjoy and live your life to the fullest. 

Show them what you can do, be brave. Proud of yourself. Write your victory story. ;)

Confidence is really a big thing to make you go through your life everyday, in order to feel good, it is all started with confident and proud about yourself. :) 

Believe me, when you become confident, you will feel extremely great everyday. 

And there is always an amazing result when you do things with confident. 

I tried it. You should, too. :))))) 

Good luck & Count your blessings.