Here's How to Love Yourself

Hello, you. :)

Ever wondered why it's so easy to love somebody else, better, than how you love yourself?

We are all human, and we often seek for the perfections. 

Perfection is never exist, but Acceptance does.

#1. Comparison Virus

Apple or Orange?

If Apple judges Orange,

Orange will judge Apple too.

Our comparison habit brings us to the level where we judge people and ourselves.

We all beautifully different one to another.

And let's bring our comparison habit to something more positive:

Negative: I'm talkative, but B is not, besides, B is too quiet. Why doesn't B talkative like me?

Positive: I'm talkative, but B is not, it's perfect. I have a friend who will listen to my stories patiently.

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Negative: C is so beautiful, I wonder how I could look like that? 

Positive: C is so beautiful. I can learn on how to be more beautiful from being with her, maybe it's the way she eats clean food, her personality, or the aura she has. 

If it's good for me, and she is succeed with those steps, therefore I can do it too. 

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#2. How do you see yourself?

So, how do you see yourself? Are you comparing yourself to another person?

If you think you're not good enough, list here, why: 

After you list down, now you know why you feel not good, 

And here's the steps for value yourself.

You need to : 

• relax, don't take everything seriously.
• proud of your strengths
• looking on your good personality and value.
• dreams you already achieved

In that way, you already are more than enough.

#3. See yourself as a team, a best friend, a soul mate. 

Take a minute to think that you were, are and will always be with yourself, so make it fun and be nice to yourself. 

You know every thought and action inside yourself.

So isn't it be good if you keep your attention before think or do something?

Be aware of everything will decrease regretful feeling.

Before say something, imagine if your sentence will be helpful or making them upset.

Before do something, imagine if you'll be thankful you're doing this or regret it. 

We should treat ourselves very nicely,

I, myself treat myself in a luxurious way,

My routine is waking up and meditate,

Joining e-courses that suits my hobbies.

And I try to be more aware in every situation.

To compliment, appreciate and care to people.

It's all started with one step to make it soon become a habit like this. 

And what routine is best for you?

What do you like to do?

What makes you feel inspired in the morning?

Is breakfast helping you to stay on the mood until lunch time?

Who's the person you want to talk the most?

Is postpone task will help you to achieve the desire result?

What is your goal in one year, and are your habit right now helping that dream closer to you? 

You know yourself more, you can choose what you love to do, 

And you can choose what actions benefit you.

Take control of your life and don't just 'let it flow'.

It's true that we need to adapt in order things happened not like our expectation.

We need to react smartly,

To whatever happen.

And stand up again.

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#4. Accept That We Are Not Perfect, but We Deserve The Best.

Just because you are not perfect, doesn't mean you don't deserve the best.

You are worthy of love and deep inside, you know that.

It's okay not to be perfect, 

We always can try to be better.

For you who try your best, even it will not reach the perfections, it's okay.

You deserve the best.

We accept the love we think we deserve. 

either it the people who support you, the special someone to spend the rest of your life with,

the places you want to go, the dreams you have in years.

I think you deserve it. :)

Hope you enjoy this blogpost, and if you wanna add more tips or questions, simply comment below :) 

Count your blessings.

:) 

Letters to you who can't forgive.

Continue from my previous post about stop hating,

It is something I need to add on, it is about forgiveness.

Maybe you are starting a new beginning, 

But it will not completely a new beginning without a forgiveness.

So ask yourself,

what haven't you forgiven?

is it some people?

is it yourself?

take your time to think about it.

How long you've been thinking bad about this?

How often you think about the scenarios 

that might happened if you could just change things in the past?

How badly you blame yourself / other people about what happened?
Is it make you feel you wanna cry?

See, here.

In this moment,

I want you to think widely, and observing.

What were you feel when you did that thing?

What were you thinking?

And can you guess what they think when they did that mistake?

Try to see in many perceptions before you judge or blame.
And try to understand it, how will you react if you are in the other person's shoes.

Of course as a human, we can feel sad.

But nobody wants to suffer in that sad feeling for a long time, 

you need to get over this. you deserve all the happiness in front of you.

You could be loved no matter what.

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How to forgive ?

As I said above,

First, try to understand what is really happening, the point of views and the lesson you could take in that situation.

And then, after you understand, 

Give a forgiveness. 

To yourself, to them, to everything that made you sad.

Imagine if they are already say sorry to you, if they already did, 

maybe you need an apologize more, just imagine it.

I've tried it and it makes me can forgive it quickly.

The thing is,

Not about what their doing is unacceptable, is bad for you, is hurting.

It is who they were, and people can change, get over it.

if they are still the same, be thankful that you are not that kind of person.

What is more important is 

don't you realize that 

your peacefulness is been taken away by talking and thinking bad about them?

Feeling anger or guilty can make your days go really bad and it makes you somehow fear of the same thing could happen to you, so it will make you scare to try new things or meet new people.

Do you see that this is not a good impact for you? 

Forgive them, so you can be free.

Forgive them, because it is a wonderful gift for healing yourself and find your peace.

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Release that anger, sadness and disappointment,

because you can't take those negative feelings everyday with you.

Right?

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So now officially,

 I welcome you to the new beginning. :)

It feels really good after forgiving right? :D

Choose forgiveness, Choose Love. 

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See you on the next post!

The One?

We all have heard and believe about "The One".

That perfect someone who will come in the right time, have everything that we asked for, and just... perfect. 

We all want that one amazing person, physically attractive, smart, kind, loving, etc... long list of a perfect person could be. 

But how if, this "The One" only have some of your wish list? Will you still accept? 

Where do love begins?

For me, 

First, love begins when I accept myself.

According to my previous post, "Who are you to you?", 

How I treat myself is reflected to how I treat another people.

I forgive myself, love everything in me (personality + physical appearance), I believe in myself, I choose to be positive everyday, and I am my own best friend to support myself to be better 24/7.

Second thing, 

It is not about what I will receive

(since I can't control what I will receive);

I am focusing on what I can give.

I can give him acceptance, time, love, 

spirit, dreams, joy, ear to listen, shoulder to cry on, 

gifts, special moments, any kindness act that will make him happy.

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So if you meet your 'the one',

Always see the good things in him and fall in love everyday like the very first day you did, 

don't blame him for something he did, don't be against him,

but, cheer him up, believe and help him to love himself and enjoying life. 

We are not perfect, but we can always be better. And supportive partner make it possible. ;)

And I think, it's the perfect way to spend the rest of life together.

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First of all, love the packaging and colour. 

I am addicted to pink and all my stuffs in room are mostly pink. ;)

It has two gold straps, short and long, which is so elegant to wear in party.

I love this beautiful case so much! <3

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Hope you enjoy my post, thank you for all the feedbacks and request of topic. 

Thanks for all the likes in Instagram and Facebook.

Be happy for today is a gift you've received.

:) 

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It's been twelve days in January 2014. I hope you are enjoying it as much as I did! 

Since it is a fresh new beginning, I see everyone is still on their holiday mood and I love to see all the new year resolutions everywhere. The spirit of a new year is really a blessing! :) 

I love how my new year's eve is being with closest family and friends.

When a new year comes, people start to evaluate what they've done and what they didn't do in 2013. 

It is also a great timing to let go of what happened, saying goodbye to the past. 

I have a long list of resolutions this year, that I've made that special list with my best friend, Neechan. On my own lists I have 35 things to achieve this year! And it will be more and more. 

I am gonna share to you the top 5 in my resolution lists!

#1. Do the best in everything! 

To give the best version of me in everything that I do, it is important to do, to make it more meaningful and the result will be better. :) 

Let's Strengthen Your Confidence!

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Its really amazing and I wanna tell you how much it means to me, knowing that many of you are reading this blog.

You guys have motivated me to write better. Once again, Thank you! ^^ 

Today, I present a great post here to remind you to feel confident. 

There were times when we feel not confident, compare ourselves to another person.

It feels not really good, isn't it?

Do you know if you wanna look good, you must feel confident first? 

Confidence is like the fuel to start your engine.

According to my previous post, it is said "You don't need to wait to be perfect, to be confident." 

I used to feel not confident with myself, my appearance, my skills. 

With internet, now I can explore the famous people who are more expert in things I love.

It made me feel down,
 but it's not their fault,
my jealousy is the wrong way to react.

They deserved to be good, because they are working so hard and put more effort

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If I wanna be good too, I must put more effort. 

As simple as that.

And what's the use in being insecure about my own skills? 

I might not be the best person in the world in what I am doing now, but....

I know that I have took so much time to reach this. I know what I've been through. It has the pain, it has the joy. And I ever wished that I want to reach this level sooo badly, and now I already reached it.

I won't let another person's stories make me feel down. 

I will reach it also with my ways. I am proud of myself. 

This is my victory story. :)

I understand that everybody has different time and way to be good at something.

And the good news is, I still have the chance to learn and improve it everyday. 

So nothing to worry as long as I wanna do the best, right?

I might not be the best person at singing, designing, or writing in the world,
but I'll still do it anyway. :)

Because I appreciate myself and I have learned a lot in these things. 

I believe that I can do it and I have confidence. 

Here are steps to boost your confident :)

Think of the time that you feel really confident.

It is can be when you are doing the hobby that you are expert at. 

For example, drawing, photography, business, or talk about the topic that you already good at.

Or when you talk with someone who admires you. 

Anything, any situation that you felt strongly confident. 

Remember that confident feeling be with you 

in every situation.

So you can feel "I CAN OVERCOME THIS", "I CAN DO IT".

Stop comparing; Start focusing & loving yourself.

It is your life, you must be more focus on yourself than others.

You can spend your free time to improve your skills, to make people around you happy,

And do the things that you like to do. Go hang out in the place that you always want to be. 

Go travelling. Practice your skills. I believe you have your own way to love yourself. ;)

Believe and you are already halfway there.

The best thing you will ever felt is to believe... 

To ignore the fear...

Come on, the future hasn't be written yet, why do you have to be so afraid?

Nobody's perfect. Why so serious? Enjoy and live your life to the fullest. 

Show them what you can do, be brave. Proud of yourself. Write your victory story. ;)

Confidence is really a big thing to make you go through your life everyday, in order to feel good, it is all started with confident and proud about yourself. :) 

Believe me, when you become confident, you will feel extremely great everyday. 

And there is always an amazing result when you do things with confident. 

I tried it. You should, too. :))))) 

Good luck & Count your blessings.